Every girl dreams of her wedding since childhood. Keeping all these dreams in mind, and looking for ways to convert them into reality can get stressful. This might lead the bride-to-be to become more demanding and quickly irritable; many are termed as ‘bridezillas’… But what can her friends and family do to help her to ensure she doesn’t stress as much and has a happy wedding?
Listen
It is indeed a stressful moment when you have to deal with a bride. They are so excited, they want the planning to be perfect, and they also want everything to be done immediately after they have come up with the ideas in their mind. Make sure you listen to her; sometimes, just listening to the bride rant is going to make her feel better. Listen to everything she has to say and understand her. Offer her shoulder to cry. And most importantly, love her.
Be Honest, But Gentle
Be honest with the bride from the beginning, especially when they need you most. Brides like to hear what their friends and family think about everything and anything. You can give your honest opinion when asked for it – but remember to be respectful when expressing your opinions.
Set Realistic Plans
It’s much easier to set boundaries with someone before things get out of hand. You can avoid a lot of heartache and stress by taking action in the early stages when everyone is on the same page and there’s still a chance for a peaceful compromise.
Offer Help
The bride wants – no; they need – everything their heart desires. If the bride-to-be has impossible demands, you’ll need to find creative ways to meet them without breaking the bank. Offer help and find solutions with various alternatives!
Breathe
We’re not going to sugarcoat this; dealing with stressed-out brides is no easy task. In such stressful situations, you need to calm yourself down first. Don’t take anything personally; it’s just a matter of time before things pan out and the bride is happy and smiling again.
Don’t Let Wedding Planning Overwhelm You
When the thrill of your engagement wears off, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed by the onslaught of decisions you’ll have to make in the months leading up to the big day. Are you unable to decide what to do next because your to-do list has taken on a life of its own? Do well-intentioned “How are the wedding planning going?” questions make you secretly want to vomit? Can’t recall the last time you went on an actual date with your future spouse? If you responded “yes” to any (or all) of the questions above, it’s probably time to take a break.
Here is some sanity-saving advice to help you get back on track and enjoy the process again. You’ll be counting down the days till your I-dos before you know it!
Set Realistic Deadlines for Completion
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You won’t be able to plan your wedding in a week, so don’t fall into the trap of procrastinating. Make a schedule with all of your key tasks on it, and allow for extra time in case of unforeseen events. Give yourself a thoughtful treat when you finish a big task to keep yourself motivated. Use one folder to keep all of your bridal-related business cards, vendor checklists, contracts, and any other relevant paperwork, if you haven’t already. That way, you’ll never have to hastily sift through a mountain of chaotic papers for a crucial wedding document.
Step Away From The Pinterest Board
If it all becomes too much, take a break and put yourself on a self-imposed wedding ban for a few days (or even a week). Don’t peek at your wedding Pinterest board, wedding emails, or the massive binder of notes and documents you’ve amassed over the last few months. Instead, make the most of your last days as a bachelorette by spending time with your friends, taking long baths, doing yoga, or doing whatever else calms you.
Outsource Some Of Your Responsibilities
Burnout is sometimes caused by a lack of delegation, so sit down with your fiancé and discuss what you can both delegate. If you don’t think you have enough time to organise your wedding, consider how you might free up time in other aspects of your life. Examine your household responsibilities to determine if there is any room for flexibility, such as hiring a cleaning service on a temporary basis or using online subscription services to have food delivered to your home.
Reconnect With Your Spouse-To-Be
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Plan a low-key date or outing with your partner, such as strolling in a park, sipping a cappuccino at a neighbourhood coffee shop, or seeing an art show. Gift your partner a box of gourmet macaroons and a bottle of champagne, along with a note encouraging him to take a night off from planning and reconnect. Make a rule about no wedding talk—and stick to it. If you can go on a cheap weekend trip or staycation together, you’ll score bonus points.
Focus On The Fun Parts
Setting aside time to focus on the fun aspects of wedding planning will help you re-energize your enthusiasm. Invite your gal-pals to join you and convert your to-do list into a bonding activity. For example, after picking your outfits, you may plan a celebratory-champagne brunch. Spending the day with your friends will definitely lift your spirit.
Sources:
https://www.femina.in/brides/planning-and-advice/dont-let-wedding-planning-overwhelm-you-207944.html
https://www.everafterguide.net/cold-feet-before-marriage.html
https://www.thespruce.com/what-do-those-pre-wedding-jitters-really-mean-3490118
https://www.femina.in/brides/planning-and-advice/stressed-out-bride-208661.html
